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Everyone who is just slightly younger than me goes wild over the upcoming BOFA premiere while I just sit here muttering ‘but this is shit compared to ROTK’ to myself. I feel so sad and grumpy and ancient.
So, neither Blind Guardian nor Loreena McKennitt got to do the song for BOFA, but I guess that Billy Boyd was the only other option I could have accepted, which means that I am fine with this.
Just … Make it a folk song, Mr Boyd. Please. Not a pop tune like ‘I See Fire’.
My riding school has been forced to close, and the horsie moves away next week.
The owner of my riding school devoted twenty years of her life to her horses and her students. She built her riding school from the ground and is one of the most hard-working people I have ever known. But now the owner of the farm we are on has decided to sell, and we were unsuccessful in finding another place to rent in time.
Life is indeed not fair.
I took my first lesson at this riding school fifteen years ago, and have been riding there ever since. Eight months ago, I was asked to start riding the horsie twice a week, aside from my weekly lesson. He is the owner’s favourite horse, and with good reason. He is simply amazing in so many ways.
The owner will not sell him yet, but he will be put out on loan to another former student who lives some distance away. Had I been lucky enough to have the time and the money, he would have stayed with me instead.
Whatever may happen in the future, this marks the end of a long chapter of my life.
(The horsie. ♥)
"i am not at all physically attracted to you"
is an absolutely valid reason to not want to date someone.
People had the nerve to call me shallow for this.
By the way, it’s also totally cool to turn someone down without explaining your reasons. You are not interested, no will suffice. Do not feel pressured to explain your decisions to someone else.
I told one (white cis) guy who wanted to fuck me that he wasn’t my type (by which I meant I found him super disgusting but was too scared to tell him that). His response? "That’s what blindfolds are for." I still can’t even believe that happened, he felt THAT entitled to my body even after I’d said no.
I agree, it’s not shallow to say no to sex for purely visual reasons, or because the person smells funny, or you don’t like their voice, or they make expressions you find unsexy. It’s always okay to say no to sex for any reason whatsoever, and you are allowed to have personal preferences and “types” when selecting sex partners.
I will point out again, though, that what we are “supposed” to find attractive and have been trained to think most beautiful is based on a white supremacist, fatphobic, ableist, bigoted standard of beauty manufactured to sell us products. That does factor into our attractions and should be examined. I honestly think that examining the traits we’ve been trained to find unattractive and asking why we’ve been trained to think that is important.
But no one should ever be pushed to do that when saying “no” or because they have said “no”. No one should ever be pressured into sex with accusations of bigotry. EVEN IF your reason for saying no turns out later to be racist/lookist/transphobic/ableist/whatever, it’s still okay to say no. You don’t need to have a “defensible” reason to say no, and you are not obligated to provide sex to make up for having internalized broken standards of beauty.
pining is 100000% the most important aspect of pre-relationship fic for me. good-natured whole-hearted pining filled with lovelorn gazing and chest aching and fluttering touches, that’s my top priority. i was put on this earth to watch characters suffer over the profundity of their love for another person. unrequited love is why god made me. characters finding out that their feelings are reciprocated after long months/years of suffering is why the universe was assembled from nothingness. amen.